‘T R E A T’
It is important that we analyse how we treat ourselves, in action and in thought.
what do I habitually tell myself that I am?
So often we are harsher with ourselves than we should be, we tell ourselves that we are not capable, that what we do isn’t good enough, whether directly or indirectly. This is never the right thing to do, all it does is hold us back. It’s not about telling yourself that everything you do is perfect and that you’re never worthy of self-criticism or censure, that’s not only not true but not healthy either, it’s about being rational and fair. It’s about understanding what it is to be human, and that we all make mistakes, are under pressure, at times greatly so, have different talents and capabilities, and also that we are largely formed by our environment and have a psychological battle on our hands. Some have more of a battle than others. It’s about understanding the circumstances of your life and cutting yourself, and others, some slack, whilst also striving to be the best you can be. Telling yourself you’re not capable is only going to hold you back. It could be an actual thing you say to yourself when you’re anxious, or implied by your attitude towards life’s hurdles and your goals, by your fear of the future and different scenarios. The emotional landscape you create within yourself.
life may knock us down, we have to lighten our load so we can rise back up fighting!
When you’re feeling low, go for a walk in a park or the countryside and allow nature to lift your spirits, even in the rain and cold there is beauty and symbolism, pattern and colour everywhere that will clear your head and make you feel alive. Look closely, it’s a beautiful and interesting world out there. And the exercise too gets everything pumping and is so good for you in every way. But I think a lot of people spend more time in the gym than in the park or in the wilderness, and they miss out on so much. It’s not just about fitness, it’s about being open to experiences. So often we can feel closed off from the world, which is a part of depression, something a lot of us have to fight. We have to put ourselves in the way of life’s experiences and not preempt them. To be mindful, it is such a release! If you cannot go out then there is much inside too, much information, much to do that will make you feel positive when you feel less so, ways to nurture yourself. And our mind can be a positive tool, it is full of good memories that are waiting to be tapped into, and yet it tends to become preoccupied with the bad.
do not be a victim of yourself.
We often ‘talk’ to ourselves in ways we wouldn’t dream of talking to others. This is especially true when we are stressed or anxious (and stress is endemic in our world). I’ve been there. I live with a lot of stress in my life, and it keeps piling on, my life is like a pressure cooker, but these days I cope a lot better than I did in the past when actually I had far less stressful circumstances. I used to speak very negatively to myself, and this eroded my self-confidence, something I am still fighting to rebuild everyday. I suffered from depression for many years, and treated myself pretty badly. Issues entwine and can ensnare you, but when you manage to escape and work your way step by step out of it, that freedom is so precious.
believe me, you are stronger and more capable than you may realise.
For me it came with my health deteriorating and having to really fight, literally to stay alive for a time. I’ve been to hell and back, (well maybe not quite back!) but it taught me an invaluable lesson, about our perspective and how wrong it can be, and also that it can be changed. That life is a battle, and that I should never expect it to be otherwise. When you expect everything to be perfect, you live a life full of disappointment. Be a realist.
it’s all about perspective.
It is about harnessing the real you, the mind may have negative tendencies but you are positive, you have to take on the mind and train it up, bend it to your will and make it your friend. It’s a life-long project, and when you realise that things really can be all in the mind, and always are really, for better or worse, it is empowering, it’s a real opportunity to grow. So often our time is taken up by unimportant thoughts, emotions and preoccupations. Let’s build a strong relationship with our self, release that inner voice that knows what it’s all about and what to do, in order to get the most out of life, and treat ourselves well in every way, so to be as healthy, balanced and happy as we can be, and see things clearly for what they are ♥
You are your main resource, your home, your world, treat yourself well today and every day X X
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